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Sunday, February 13, 2011

The Three Be's of Parenting

Posted by Debra Ann Elliott at 4:15 PM

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”
Waldo Emerson

 Parenting is not an easy job, but you and your child can survive with three rules every parent should follow. I call them the 3 Be's.

Be positive: One of the first rules of parenting is to be positive. A child learns 99% of their behavior from his or her parent whether negative or positive and your job is to show a positive attitude at all times. Be a positive force in your child's upbringing and you'll reap the reward of a positive adult. A positive parent is the 'Be All You Can Be In The Lord' parent.


Be proactive: The second rule of a well-oiled  home is a  parent must be proactive. Your child will learn from their mistakes, but only if you are a proactive parent. Your job is to teach them right from wrong and good from evil. Being a proactive parent is setting the stage for your child's adult life. Be a proactive force in your child's daily life and you'll see the difference a day makes. A proactive parent is the 'Be There, Be Aware' parent. 

 

Be parental: The third rule is the only rule a lot of  parent's find the most difficult. Why? Parent's in general tend to want to be their child's friend instead of their foe. Unfortunately, a  parent cannot have the luxury of being their child's bff.
As a parent your duty is to enforce the rules, not allow your child to break them. Being your child's parent is what they want and need. They may hate you today, but tomorrow your adult child will thank you for being a parent not a bff. A parental parent is the 'Be A Parent, Not BFF' parent.


For further reading I recommend these resources:
 Positive Parenting: How to Be a Positive Parent
The Power of Positive Parenting : A Wonderful Way to Raise Children by Glenn I Latham
Proactive Parenting with Pastor Tracy Boyd
Christian parenting resources

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28 comments:

Janice on February 13, 2011 at 6:26 PM said...

Hi! Thanks for following my blog. Now following you too. I SO agree with the three P's. :D

shelly on February 13, 2011 at 7:09 PM said...

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Mommy Head on February 13, 2011 at 7:24 PM said...

What encouraging words! I especially love the insight on being positive!

Following back from the blog hop. Thanks for following me

raisingmarshmallows on February 13, 2011 at 7:28 PM said...

I have a sister-in-law who tries to be her kids friend. It breaks my heart, they need a mother.

Nikki

Mom Sponge on February 14, 2011 at 10:39 AM said...

Great Post! Being positive makes positive things happen!

Patty

www.momsponge.com

Kathryn on February 14, 2011 at 3:04 PM said...

Being proactive seems to be a real key in my house. Dealing with issues the first time, encouraging good behaviors... the list goes on and I'm constantly rewarded when I'm pro-active. If only I were pro-active all the time!! Boo! :)

Praises from a Wife and Mommy! on February 14, 2011 at 4:01 PM said...

I agree completely! I am a new follower! Thanks for stopping by praisesofawifeandmommy.blogspot.com

Have a great week!

kari jasus on February 19, 2011 at 7:54 AM said...

great tips...much needed right now! :/
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Our Banana Moments on February 26, 2011 at 11:34 PM said...

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Marsha

Ghada on February 28, 2013 at 7:59 AM said...

Great rules to live by for any parent. At the heart of the rules is being proactive, which is so important :)

Ashley S on February 28, 2013 at 8:19 AM said...

Love this :) Great rules to live by.

Sofia on February 28, 2013 at 9:30 AM said...

Great rules. The last one is an important one: I have seen parents who prefer to be their children's friend rather than be their parent (aka my in-laws)

Maria Briggs on February 28, 2013 at 9:46 AM said...

I love your tips, and I love that it doesn't apply only to homeschooling families but to all families.

Parenting Patch on February 28, 2013 at 11:43 AM said...

Be positive is great advice. I try to tell my daughter what she can do (pet the kitty nicely) instead of what she can't do (don't hurt the kitty).

Maegan L on February 28, 2013 at 12:18 PM said...

I completely agree! Following your blog now.

Cynthia Landrie on February 28, 2013 at 1:33 PM said...

I agree with all of these, whether you are chirstian or not

Jennifer Van Huss on February 28, 2013 at 1:36 PM said...

That's great advice! I love how positive it is!

savannah on February 28, 2013 at 1:49 PM said...

I guilty of trying to be my little guys friends I always feel horrible when I have to take a toy away or put them on time out :(

Spatulas On Parade - Dawn on February 28, 2013 at 4:10 PM said...

I agree, be the parent not the friend.

Amy @ Not Your Average Baby Blog on February 28, 2013 at 6:33 PM said...

Definitely agree with being positive! I think, of course, it is important to be the parent rather than the best friend, but I think that there's a time and a place to step back and to be your child's friend as well. I hope that I can balance the two well with my son. It is important for children to take their parents seriously and to have respect for them as the parent, but it is also important for them to know that they can confide in you as well. Great, informative post! : )

Terri S. Vanech on March 1, 2013 at 6:56 AM said...

Stopping by from the blog hop. Hope you'll visit me at www.pushingonarope.com

Tara on March 2, 2013 at 10:18 AM said...

Great words of encouragement for any parent.

becca on March 2, 2013 at 10:22 AM said...

great advice here

Mrs. Stephens on March 2, 2013 at 2:23 PM said...

I totally agree with all of these, especially with being parental. Be a parent, you kids will love you for it in the long run.

Mommy Had A Little Blog on March 3, 2013 at 1:05 AM said...

Solid rules for any parent to live by! So many kids are failing because of their parent's lack of being parents. So sad. This was a great post!

jessica barnett on March 3, 2013 at 7:44 AM said...

Great Tips!

Paula Bendfeldt-Diaz on March 3, 2013 at 7:52 AM said...

Great advice, the three Bs are all so important. So hard but so important not to be your child's best friend but a parent instead. Thanks!

KC @ genxfinance on March 11, 2013 at 10:12 AM said...

I like that quote a lot. It's not easy being a parent. No one is perfect either. You just got to do what you think is right, guide to the right path, and just be there for them always.

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