Today's Advocating for Another prompt is Parenting isn’t all sunshine and ice cream – it’s hard. Write a post that delves into 3 challenges that you face as a parent.
When my grandson was born he looked "normal", I knew the possibility that he wouldn't be because his mother(my daughter) has mental issues and his father did also. Of course I prayed Nicholas wouldn't inherit their genetics. My prayers went unanswered, but over time I've come to accept God didn't make a mistake and my grandson is who he is suppose to be.
For the last eight years raising Nicholas has been a challenge. If I had to pick only three(of course there are more)I would choose the challenges of discipline, education and everyday life.
How do I as a stand-in parent choose to discipline a child who has SPD? When my grandson was a toddler discipline was never a major problem. It wasn't until he turned 4 that discipline flew out the window. Nothing works with Nicholas. Because of his condition, he ignores all forms of punishment(at home that is). I'm not saying there haven't been discipline issues at school, but home is where he seems to act out the most. It's not a picnic or a walk in the park raising Nicholas, but God dealt me this hand and I know someday and someway I will get through the discipline hand and learn from my mistakes and actually learn from my grandson what works best for him.
Education from the time Nicholas started school has been a major issue. We fought all through K5 to get him put in special ed. It wasn't until the end of the school year he was placed where he should have been. In 1st grade we had a lot of issues with his teacher. Nicholas did not like her and rebelled. Of course things did get better once he was in 2nd grade. He loved his teacher and became a star student. This school year is 3rd grade and a new school. I don't know how it will turn out. So far, so good. We will stay on our toes and tuned in to make sure all goes well. It's just another hand in the game of life with Nicholas.
Everyday life issues is a challenge in our house. They are days when he can become irritated, combative and abusive. They are days when he is happy and calm. I never know what the day will bring, but I always try to be up to the challenge and prepared for the worst. I would prefer the best, but it doesn't always happen as planned. Nicholas is a hand full, but he's my ace and I wouldn't trade all the gold in the world for another grandchild....
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